How to reduce stress?
Is avoiding stress the best way of dealing with stress? Is it possible? It is hard to say ‘yes, for sure’. But there are people who do not get stressed easily and there are psychologists who give us some advice on how to be happy. And happy people (though they also undergo difficult situations) know that understanding and building our emotional well being is crucial. I would like to point it out very strongly: our well being is not something what we may receive accidentally without any effort. Of course, some character traits can help, but we all have to learn how to build our emotional well being. The aim of this article is to present some ‘happiness boosters’ which, I hope, it will help all of us not to get stressed out.
Over the decades psychological research have been done on happiness, optimism, positive emotions and healthy character traits. Have you heard about a psychologist called E. P. Seligman? In 1998, he invited leading psychologists to look at what actively makes people feel fulfilled, engaged and happy. As a result of the meeting Positive Psychology has been founded. For Seligman and like-minded researchers, there are three components of happiness: finding ways of making our lives feel more meaningful, getting more pleasure out of life, and becoming more engaged in what we do. People will not get stressed easily if they feel happy. How to achieve it?
Seligman’s biggest proposal for lasting happiness is to define our strengths and find new ways to make use of them. He has focused on defining such human strengths and virtues as generosity, humor, gratitude and zest. According to Seligman the cerebral virtues such as curiosity and love of learning are less strongly tied to happiness than interpersonal virtues like kindness, gratitude and capacity for love. Exercising gratitude, kindness and other virtues provide a spiritual lift. Giving makes us feel better about ourselves. It is a way of distracting ourselves from our own existence, and that is beneficial. We have a sense of purpose because we matter to someone else. Therefore, it is important to have strong ties to friends and family, commitment to spending time with them and to work on social skills, close interpersonal ties and social support in order to be happy and less stressed.